signed, a vegan married to a butcher,

This sounds hilarious! Thanks for the good laugh!

But it is as legit as anything haha, leftist here married to a Christian conservative (at least she doesn’t vote lol ‍️) and yes “I can change her” is definitely on my mind.

This. Tagging is so important... In my opinion we could use some more tags to sort stuff. At least some nsfl and politics tag.

For politics I just use a keyword block. If it contains terms related to that orange or such, I block.

Piefed does have a nsfl tag option, a bot filter, as well moving communities to another instance.

Imho, those are the three big things that most fediverse places should have. Being able to move to another instance is a gamechanger, should an instance disappear or get seized by asshats.

I would actually make the bot filter on by default. Is this the case?

For piefed, my main criticisms are these;

Voting Privacy – Votes can be private (not federated); in meme communities, upvotes don’t affect reputation (optional).

Enabling private votes may make it easier for bots, but as these votes are not federated, it should not affect what other users see, I think.
Upvotes not affecting reputation in meme communities is an issue because this way someone could make a far-right community and call it a meme community, and get off scot-free. How do Piefed devs tackle this?

Likewise;

Default Comment Collapsing – Comments at -10 score or below are collapsed automatically.

Low Reputation Indicator – Identifies consistently downvoted users.

This can be an issue, with bots en masse downvoting comments to have them be less visible. How is it ensured that the bot filter would work, without far-reaching measures like "age verification"?

no i meant do you think it's the cia doing it

Well, previously we had LemmyNSFW. That one died, pretty much out of the blue. Now the second admin(?) of it launched FediNSFW as a successor. We have that - for now - I guess? They said they're gonna try to make sure the same thing doesn't happen again.

But I guess it's still a single point of failure. If they don't properly ensure there's several people who own the domain and hosting infrastructure, can administer the contracts, server etc, it might still be down to one person and their ability to keep it up. And if there's legal troubles, uncertainty, not enough donations, law changes or the hoster or Cloudflare pulls the trigger, that might be the end of all of it as well. A severe technical issue/mistake could also take down a singular instance. And due to the delicate nature of NSFW content, they probably can't afford to be 100% transparent with us, so I wouldn't know whether they're in a healthy place or not.

I mean there's nothing wrong with FediNSFW's existence. I just think it's massively questionable to all bet on the same horse, and then call us the "Fediverse", a decentral platform...

Not specifically age-verification, but they are considering checks of some sort at some point to deal with the bot problem on there. That's at least one angle. They've also just rolled it out in small scale to suspicious accounts. So whether or not it is done for the purposes of verifying age, or just dealing with bots - I suspect it'll arrive in the end once they feel they have the capital to do it.

As for the UK specific issues, it's hard to get a concrete numbers because most people in the UK just switched to a VPN. In the event of Reddit implementing global ID-check measures, it wouldn't matter what VPN you switched to - so the situation would be a bit different.

the cia would try anything, but hornyposting isn't their main thing. They'd try that with high-profile individuals.

I recall them having made a fake sex video of Sukarno (the first leader of Indonesia), and trying to blackmail him. Upon seeing it, he said he was delighted and wanted more, lol. Here's a source.

That is odd, normally you are only asked for a reason when you sign up for a new account and not when you just subscribe to a community. Can you share the community you were trying to subscribe?

I have to wait to be subscribed to the different communities
That is unfortunately in the nature of the decentralization. Your instance cannot be sure that that the instance the community is on will respond in a timely fashion so it shows it as "pending". The only thing we could maybe do about this is to be overly optimistic. Most requests to subscribe a community go though without a problem so we could just show it being subscribed even though are are not, but that would introduce other problems.

There's some anime titties but not enough to go around.

Yea bro, I need it more than reading for the hundred time what Trump will do. I don't leave in hell, yet feels live living in it.

doesn't matter where you live, the people living in hell will force it down your throat because they want everyone else to be as miserable as they are.

My bad choice of wording, they asked me for reasons during sign up, not subscribing to communities.
Anyway, thanks for the explanation, any chance you can share also android apps?
I'm currently using Summit linked to my PieFed account

The authoritarian tankies masquerading as leftists/progressives is a problem too.

For new users the local feed is the recommendation algorithm. If you are on a instance that caters to your interests you will discover stuff that interests you there automatically. If you're not, then you might conclude, that Lemmy has nothing for you and bounce off the platform entirely. This is especially true if you are looking for non-English content.

The paradoxical situation with federation and instances is that those least likely to understand it are among the more likely to profit from it if they did.

I don't want people from Reddit here.

The fact that half of Twatter moved to Bluesky instead of Mastodon is a blessing.

ActivityPub is by design a data harvesting goldmine, the fact that it flies under the radar is the only saving grace.

My wife started out with tons of republican views, she just didn't vote ever.

Through conversations about the state of things, pointing* out hypocrisy, and validating the feelings her religious family was telling her to suppress, I'm happy to say I've managed to marry a leftist. She didn't even really have the liberal pit-stop many of us take.

I'll take 100,000 leftists married/dating/whatever to 100,000 liberals over 200,000 conservatives any day of the week.

I'd explain it like this. I hope that that works.

An easy analogy

View the fediverse like a few forests, linked by many wild bridges. PieFed might be one forest, Peertube and Mastodon yet other ones. These forests have a lot of different trees.

An instance is like a single tree. And a community a branch. Users are leaves. You can help keep the tree alive, by giving donations as nutrition.

Some parts of the fediverse allow leaves to move and join another tree.

Traditional social media, on the other hand, are comparable to a single, isolated and big tree, far away from other trees. You cannot jump to other trees, and cannot easily go to a forest.

More technical explanation

Social media are built on 'protocols'. Protocols tell for example social media what they can do and how to 'talk' to each other.

The Fediverse is a group of social media that use ActivityPub, Diaspora, or AT Protocol. These three protocols allow something special that 'traditional' social media like Facebook and Instagram don't: they can communicate across each other, without using a centralised server for hosting content.

It's comparable to email; you can mail to someone not using your mail provider, and vice versa.

On one of these fediverse social media, people self-host or join a self-hosted group. Such a group is called an 'instance'. Each instance functions independently and can have its own policies.

Instances (and users) can decide with which other instances they allow their own content to be seen. They can also decide what instances their users can see content from. An instance that is connected to another instance is said to be 'federated' with the latter. If that is not the case, they are 'defederated'. Instances are supported through donations.

Within each instances, there are many communities. There's a community for Linux, a community for cat pictures, a community for nature, and so on. Users can subscribe to many of them, receiving their content.

Casual endorsement or sympathy for summary executions based on class alone. With or without, "just joking bro"

A failure to accept the possibility that societal collapse will probably hurt more people than it helps.

Every time I think about starting a community about one of my hobbies, I look at a random modlog and realize I don't want any part of it.

Sign up is still a confusing, exclusionary, inaccessible mess. So, no.